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In the name of GOD, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Quran 4:34. The men are made responsible for the women,* and GOD has endowed them with certain qualities, and made them the bread earners. The righteous women will cheerfully accept this arrangement, since it is GOD's commandment, and honor their husbands during their absence. If you experience rebellion from the women, you shall first talk to them, then (you may use negative incentives like) deserting them in bed, then you may (as a final option) leave them**. If they obey you, you are not permitted to transgress against them. GOD is Most High, Supreme.
Quran 4:35. If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, GOD will help them get together. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.
*4:34 This expression simply means that GOD is appointing the husband as "captain of the ship." Marriage is like a ship, and the captain runs it after due consultation with his officers. A believing wife readily accepts GOD's appointment.
**4:34 GOD prohibits wife beating. The worst that can happen to a marriage is divorce. When a believing man, a GOD fearing man, gets to the point that he cannot save his marriage, he should leave his wife, he should divorce her. An Arabic word from the same root (Daraba) is used in the Quran for traveling on earth. Obviously, we do not "beat" the earth, we travel on it, we move on and go to other places. To show that "leaving" rather than "beating" is the correct meaning of the word used in 4:34, immediately in the next verse, GOD says, "If a couple fear separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator ... ."